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Tenecia's avatar

This is exactly how I feel about preserving memories - they're so sacred!!

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Kylee's avatar

This was so sentimental. Right from the start I knew I would love it. I too wear clothes that were my mom’s when she was in her 20s and wonder about the woman she was before me. I was absolutely touched by this piece

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Freya's avatar

My heart is always so warmed seeing you in my comments <33 Thank you so much

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Ella's avatar

"She was a girl once, with a wonky haircut and scraped knees" 😪 I am already sobbing. brb.

Okay. Finished reading. Wow, Freya, the talent you have is immeasurable. One of my biggest wishes is that I could be best friends with my mum when she was at the age I am now. My Grandad is 94 and has the biggest box of photographs and I spent hours rummaging through and seeing his life documented on glossy paper, and I immediately went home and printed all my favourite photos off because I simply cannot afford to lose them in a digital cloud.

This is my favourite thing I've ever read from you!

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Freya's avatar

Ella omg it took me so long to finally respond to this comment but omg. That is the sweeest thing. Memories are just so precious. I’m so glad you enjoyed this piece <33

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Caroline Beuley's avatar

Loved this!! I keep a journal too and I always wonder if my future kids will read it. If my mom had kept one, I’d be reading it for sure!

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Freya's avatar

Thank you so much!!! <333

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Soph's avatar

You are the most beautiful writer, Freya. This made me yearn for the younger me who spent her spare time scribbling in notebooks and sticking in scrapbooks. I need to do more of that.

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Freya's avatar

Soph 🥹 this was such a cute comment and YES to more of that <3

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nush's avatar

ohmygod ur writing hits me like a million bullets in one go in the best possible way it was so nice reading this post

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Freya's avatar

This comment made my DAY!!! Thank you so so much <333

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nush's avatar

oh im so glad, u deserve it <333

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Zara Jackson's avatar

From the title, I expected to read an essay I wholeheartedly agree with; had no idea I'd actually be reading one of the most touching and sentimental pieces on Substack. Freya, it's beautiful.

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Freya's avatar

Thank you so much, Zara!!

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Ayda İrem Üser's avatar

I don’t know if it’s completely unrelated but you remind me of the character from the Turkish movie with the same name “fig jam”

Maybe I’m just pointing out the obvious to you but that movie is not even popular here so if you haven’t seen it and can get your hands on it i highly recommend you to

Also this is my first read from you so i might be absolutely wrong

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Freya's avatar

Omg I’m going to try and find it!!!

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mar's avatar

this is gorgeous and it made me cry (in a good way)

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Freya's avatar

Thank you so so much!!!! That means everything <3

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